As someone who has spent a lot of my time by myself the past months, Miley Cyrus’s Flowers has been on loop. Whenever I mention that I haven’t been as social as in years past, everyone’s reaction is to tell me how sorry they are- but I’m not sorry at all!
I’ve always been told I’m a great friend, and I always wondered what it would like to have me as a friend. But I’ve started being my own best friend, and it is wonderful. So in honor of February 14th being just around the corner, here are 14 things I have loved doing by myself, for myself.
- In theme with the title song, I LOVE flowers. I am obsessed with acting like I am a dramatic cottagecore girl with wildflowers in my room. I have always wanted to be given flowers and have waited and waited and realized that flowers are really not that expensive… so if no one else will buy them for me, I’ll do it myself! I am eagerly waiting for daffodil season (my favorite).
- While I may still be fantasizing dramatically waltzing in a ballgown with my enemy like in a romance novel, I’ve found an immense amount of joy in dancing by myself in my room, record player blasting with ABBA, just pure happiness.
- Something that always makes me nervous is going rock climbing by myself! The social anxiety of feeling judged by other climbers, and looking stupid with my lack of skill, can be overwhelming. But I’ve found climbing by myself with Beyonce playing in my earbuds is when I challenge myself the most, and meet my goals!
- While taking yourself to dinner might sound weird, I might just be the best dinner date I have ever had. Sitting in a restaurant with good food and a good book is the best idea for a Friday night.
- My favorite Amazon purchase so far this year (other than fun patterned socks that are arriving on Thursday) are a pack of face masks I got for ten dollars. Multiple nights a week these days include me laying in bed with a face mask on, crocheting before bed, and waking up with soft skin. Totally worth a small frivolous expense.
- I have always been particularly careful with my money, but long gone are the days waiting for someone to buy me a teddy bear I like- now I spend probably an absurd amount of money on myself, because I deserve it! The latest buy has been a cute new cup to keep me hydrated 🙂
- I have, again, always been someone who feels like they need an entire group in order to have a proper outing. But lately, my favorite days have been ones where I sip Starbucks and wander the aisles of a store, feeling no time crunch or pressure from anyone around me, stopping to look at any little thing that interests me.
- Most couples have a song that’s ‘their song’, but now when certain songs come on they’re MY song. I have a little inside joke just for me, from days or moments in my life where I was most happy.
- I am the worst secret keeper. I am so, so bad at keeping secrets and I am not exaggerating, I suck at it. But lately I’ve kept little secrets that don’t mean anything but are little moments just for me. Little experiences I don’t tell anyone else about, because they’re just for me. My own little secret! I don’t have many considering I’m an open book, but it’s nice to have a few well kept secrets.
- I have always taken pride in my music taste, and getting to scream along lyrics to music in my car is such a freeing experience. One of the things I love about having an old car is the 6 disk CD player that holds all my Carol King, Brandi Carlisle, and Joan Jett when I’m in my car by myself.
- Now why would I EVER. EVER. Wait for a man to buy me jewelry. Let’s be real, I will always have the best taste, and if anyone buys me silver but knows that I wear mainly gold? I will be appalled. If I am not given something that matches my taste? Disgusting. Absolutely tragic.
- The tragic part about working near Mitchell’s is the fact that anytime I have a hard shift, or just don’t feel like working, I bribe myself with ice cream. It’s a little treat! A little pat on the back, if you will.
- Sometimes, when I’m feeling overwhelmed or upset, I schedule a night with myself. Whether that be a craft session, watercolor time, or dedicated to finishing the new season of Ginny and Georgia, it’s a special time with my favorite person. Me!
- The most recent thing that might just be my favorite, is going shopping for my Valentines. Not only for the ones I will be giving for my friends, but for myself. So this weekend, I bought massive amounts of chocolate, a new set of pajamas, and the next book in one of my favorite series. I cannot wait for Valentine’s Day, and to be the love of my own life this year.
Here’s to a future of being obsessed with myself, being my own best friend, and enjoying my own company.